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Men!!
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Ok, when is it ok for a guy to “make a move”?
What is the correct response from a girl when a guy does make a move, straight outta the blue? Should she just say no? slap him? Shove him backward? What does one do if one is in the confines of a car? A locked one at that?
What do you do when someone you have known your whole life – not practically your whole life, your WHOLE life.. as in your parents were neighbors and friends before you were even born! – makes a crude move on you, after 3 or 4 years of no contact!
Here is a story…
A girl, more then just curvy…someone who has always had a battle with the bulge… growing up was the most undesirable girl…or at least that was what she was given to believe by every guy and girl in the group..
The guy… reasonably nice..as in he didn’t torment her about her weight quite as much as the other children..

The guy’s mum comes over to the girl’s house…mentions guys new job… gurl gets guy’s number and congratulates the guy over text… guy immediately texts back saying stuff like how have you been…we really haven’t met up in ages…why don’t we meet? gurl says sure, lets make a plan… guy says great, I’ll call after work…
…calls after work as promised and brings up meeting after they have finished catching up on who is getting married to whom… who is working where… gurl says “sure, lets meet for a movie or something”… guy says “let us?...meaning the whole group or do I get to ask you out on a date?” …girl *thrown a little..laughs* but comes back with “well, how should I know if you get to ask me out on a date!” …he goes “ok, a date then…and we will make it lunch and a movie”
…she is wondering why the sudden desire to meet up..
the convo is outrageously flirting or so she thinks – admittedly this is one arena she could do with some training in.  …though point to note is that flirting seems to revolve around them getting together – long term sorts..
they decide to meet for a movie and dinner instead of lunch as the guy has a business meeting he can’t get out of …
the next morning she gets a text msg saying dinner looks a little bleak but they can meet up for a couple of hours at around 3 in the afternoon if she is ok with it?
She is like… ookkkk…but if its so much of a hassle they can always just meet up later… he is like no no…we’ll keep the movie and dinner for next weekend.. but lets just meet up today…she agrees…
He picks her up and starts driving…she asks him a where they were going a couple of times and he says… you decide…
Finally she says…look you are obviously driving with a destination in mind… so why not just share it with me… he goes “generally in the evenings I drive to this place (mentions a lake – a hangout for many youngsters) and listen to music..so I thought we could go there…”
She agrees… they get there …she is running out of topics to talk bout… and he is contributing little or nothing to the conversation…girl looks out of the window once the car is parked… after a bit..
After a bit.. she feels him rubbing her hand… the reverse side of her palm..in a decidedly weirdish fashion… its still not sinking in…
Then he starts talking crap about how wonderfully hot she looks…she thinks its obviously an extension of the night before’s crap and laughs it off… he is persistent.. and she goes, yea right!!! At this he says look at yourself from my eyes and more corny stuff like that!...cups the side of her face and tries to rub his thumb over her lips…
Warning bells go off in her head… BIG TIME…
That’s when it dawns on her “gurl, this guy is not kidding…he really thinks you are going to make out with him!”
She doesn’t know which to be more appalled about… that he thought she would just get into a car with him after 4 years and go make out…or it was HIM… someone she had climbed mango trees.. repaired cycles with…
The unreality making her laugh more then scream… politely keeps returning his hands (and he surely seemed to have more then his fair share of two!) and tells him.. its really not happening! His comical expression... “seriously? You can’t be that boring!!”
Once he is reconciled to the idea that she is not on the same page he starts with his “I’ll convince you… I can be very convincing…” to her repeating…all the action you are seeing is holding hands! (she realized the easiest way to evade “caresses” was to hold his hands”
She suggests going for a drive/drink or else just going home.. cause nothing else was going to happen..
…riiinnngggg…
literally saved by the bell…he gets a call from his office.. and needs to rush… tries to get out of it half heartedly.. but she implores him not to as she wants to go home anyways…
he drives her half way back…while she is getting outta the car he reminds her of next weekend urging her to keep herself free!

...later that night he texts her “ so whats up? Me reaching home. Had a nice time with you.” …she doesn’t reply… so he sends her the same txt again!
(had a nice time?!? Nice must have a different definition on planet desperate!)
…what should she do!?
Its not like he is a very good friend she can’t live without or anything.. however she does have some fond memories of him… one time as children when she was accused of stealing something everyone believed the worst, without so much as asking her!And he was the only one who told her why the others were not talking normally with her… and stood up for her told the others she couldn’t do something like that… and helped prove her innocence..
What does one do in a situation like this?